• May 14, 2023
The title may be confusing — I am not fake. I am 100% me, so that’s that.
But others or things being fake – that is, representing themselves one way and then not actually being that, is very annoying. I don’t mean change or growth. Meeting someone who identifies themselves as say, conservative, and then over time they adjust; change; grow their ideology to be more liberal. That isn’ fake.
Fake is when you see that advertisement for something which gets your attention, sucks you in, and then when you get that thing, it is nothing like what was presented.
Fake is meeting someone who portrays themselves one way to get your attention, and then later reveals something you would never have signed up for.
It is essential - 100% essential - to be real. When someone is experiencing trouble, and you offer to help, you better follow through. If you can’t, then are you offering to actually help the person, or to make yourself feel good for offering? When someone invites you to dinner or some event, do you say yes only to prevent hurting their feelings by declining? When they go to some trouble or expense, and you back out at the last moment, does it hurt any less?
Sure, things happen. But a commitment made is a commitment met. Being fake with the same person too many times damages trust, and then you will never get asked. There won’t be an invitation because they anticipate – rightfully so in my opinion – that you will say yes and not show up.
Don’t be fake. Live your truth. Your reality. Whatever that may be.